Tips on how to deal with negative people

Times are tough enough already, and we don’t need to add the drama of negativity from someone else to make matters worse. I read this online, and have edited this down a bit to give you a clear view on how to deal with this.

Dealing with “negative” people can be easy if you follow these tips;

1) Don’t get into an argument with them

Do not try to debate with a negative person. A negative person likely has their views, and they probably won’t change that just because of what you say. Whatever you say, he or she will find a ton of different reasons to back up his or her viewpoints.  You can give some constructive comments, but the best idea is to just not go there.

2) Try to lend a helping hand

Some people complain as a way of crying for help.  Just a simple “Are you okay?” or “Is there anything I can do to help you?” can do wonders.

3) Stay on the subject of light topics

Some negative people are triggered by certain topic. If  the person is stuck in his or her negativity,  it may be too deeply rooted to address in a conversation, or for you to help him or her to unravel it. Bring in a new topic to lighten the mood. Simple things like new movies, daily occurrences, common friends, make for light conversation.

4) Ignore the negative comments

One way to help the negative person “get it” is to ignore the negative comments. If he or she goes into a negative swirl, ignore or give a simple “I see” or an “Ok” reply. Do this often and soon he or she will know positivity pays off. He or she will hopefully adjust to be more positive.

5) Praise the person for the positive things

Negative people aren’t just negative to others. They’re also negative to themselves.  Recognize the positive things and praise him orher for it. They will be surprised at first and might reject the compliment, but on the inside they will feel positive about it. That’s the first seed of positivity you’re planting in them, and it’ll bloom in the long-term.

6) Reduce contact with them / Avoid them

If all else fails, reduce contact with them or avoid them altogether. If it’s a good friend, let them know about the severity of the issue, and try to work it out where ever possible.

It’s not healthy to spend too much time with people who drain you. Your time is precious, so spend it with people who will have positive effects on you.


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